Chapter 1: A Shift in Perspective

For a long time, I adhered to the philosophy of becoming just 1% better each day. This mindset was so deeply ingrained in me that it even made its way into my job applications. However, I’ve come to realize that this approach is somewhat misguided.

Now, my focus has shifted. Instead of striving to be better, faster, or stronger in every aspect of my life, I’ve discovered a profound sense of peace in accepting myself as I am, right in this moment. While I still have aspirations, I've recognized the importance of self-love and mindfulness.

Three Surprising Insights from Embracing Acceptance

1. The Reverse Domino Effect

   The domino effect is a familiar concept, where one action leads to a series of events. Conversely, I’ve learned to appreciate the value of stillness. By allowing myself to pause, I began to understand what I truly needed at any given time. Sometimes it was about being productive, while other times it was about resting. This shift away from the relentless pursuit of improvement has allowed me to nurture myself more effectively.

2. Rediscovering Joys of the Past

   My relentless focus on personal growth made me overlook the simple pleasures from my childhood. To reconnect with those joys, I revisited fun activities. I dabbled in painting rocks, creating paper mache lanterns, and decorating my home with flower stickers made from my garden. I also took time to doodle, write poetry, and bake, all without the pressure to impress anyone. These moments of creativity brought me unexpected happiness.

3. Time Travel and Self-Acceptance

   By letting go of the need to transform into a more "lovable" version of myself, I gained a deeper appreciation for my younger self—the one who relished in fun and creativity. I began to wonder when I started viewing the world as a place filled with dangers rather than endless opportunities. This reflection helped me reconnect with my future self as well; my present became valuable, and I embraced the idea that I am exactly where I need to be. I learned to release my anxieties about the future, understanding that it is merely an extension of my current journey.

Want to Explore This Path?

I invite you to join me in this journey of slowing down and reconnecting with yourself. Here are some suggestions to get started:

1. Self-Reflection

   When you experience negative emotions, pause and ask yourself, "What do I need right now?" Listen to your inner voice and honor that need.

2. Rekindle a Childhood Hobby

   Think back to what you loved as a child and dedicate some time to that activity without any specific goal in mind—just enjoy it.

3. Create Affirmations

   Develop a few affirmations that resonate with you, such as "I am exactly where I need to be." Write them down and display them around your home or set them as reminders on your phone. Repeat them aloud, especially when self-doubt creeps in.

As I continue on this path of self-acceptance and mindfulness, I encourage you to embrace your unique journey.

Chapter 2: Insights from Influential Voices

In his video, "What Happens if You Get 1% Better Every Day?" James Clear discusses the importance of incremental progress and how small changes can lead to significant improvements over time.

In "IMPROVE Your LIFE and Get 1% Better Every Day," James Clear offers practical advice on how to enhance your life through consistent, small efforts, emphasizing the balance between ambition and self-acceptance.