Chapter 1: The Deceptive Nature of Alcohol

It’s crucial to recognize that drinking can turn you into a master of deception. Can you truly reclaim your honesty after achieving sobriety?

A few weeks ago, I reached out to a close friend around 2 p.m. She was busy but promised to return my call once she was free. I casually mentioned I’d be heading to dinner by 4 p.m. and asked her to call before then. That was not the truth.

Later, I texted Shannon, claiming I was too tired for our early morning hike due to a restless night. That was only partially accurate.

As I prepped dinner by chopping onions and mushrooms, I convinced myself this was to get a jumpstart on the meal. But deep down, I knew I was lying to myself.

When friends called while I was drinking, I often opted to text them instead, fabricating excuses about my husband and me heading out. What was happening to me? The answer was clear: I was becoming a skilled liar.

During the two years leading up to my sobriety, I made sure to clear my schedule every afternoon to indulge in cocktails without interruptions. Even after just one drink, I avoided conversations with friends, fearing I’d slur my words or lose track of the discussion.

Dinner preparations had to be meticulously completed before I could indulge. None of my friends suspected my excessive drinking; it was a well-guarded secret. I felt ashamed of my affection for Manhattans, Cosmopolitans, and Chardonnay, which had become my steadfast companions.

When drinking alters your identity, it’s a cause for concern.

Chapter 2: The Impact of Alcohol on Relationships

I grew up in a Catholic environment, and while I no longer practice the religion, I still value honesty. I’ve always believed in telling the truth — until alcohol became my source of comfort and companionship.

I’d start my evenings with a cocktail while unwinding with a book around 4:30. By 5 p.m., I’d join my husband for the news, having another drink and contemplating dinner. Since most of the meal was already prepared, I only needed to add the finishing touches or pop it in the oven.

Alcohol transforms who we are. I’m sure you’re aware of this if you’ve experienced excessive drinking. I became a proficient liar and learned the art of being sneaky.

I didn’t want my husband to realize the extent of my drinking, even though he enjoyed cocktails himself. Whenever he stepped out of the room, I’d refill my glass to keep my consumption hidden.

Drinking also made me combative. Poor Bill often faced my wrath, leading to numerous arguments fueled by alcohol. It diminishes our ability to think rationally and can make us unreasonable in conflicts, as I often was with my husband.

Alcohol has a numbing effect, dulling our senses while it intoxicates us. I’m not justifying our behavior; I’m simply stating the reality.

Many are so affected they become physically aggressive, but thankfully, that wasn’t my case.

What about you? Did you find yourself becoming confrontational? Have you returned to your true self after reaching sobriety?

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Chapter 3: Embracing Sobriety and Authenticity

I’ve returned to the person I was before alcohol took control of my life. I’m happier, more patient, and understanding. My creativity and curiosity have blossomed again. I’m living honestly, embracing life as it unfolds, and striving to be present.

I can now receive calls at any hour without hesitation. I rarely cancel plans for hikes or workouts with friends. Sobriety is a gift I hadn’t anticipated. I once thought it would be dull, but it’s proven to be anything but.

Life is richer and more beautiful than I ever imagined. If you’re a drinker, I encourage you to consider sobriety. And if you’ve already embraced it, I’m sure you share my sentiments. Congratulations!

Alcohol Addiction: The Lies We Tell Ourselves

This video delves into the self-deception often associated with alcohol consumption, highlighting the struggles many face in acknowledging their drinking habits.