Finding Perspective: A Stoic Approach to Life's Challenges
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Chapter 1: The "View From Above" Concept
Imagine observing our lives from a bird's-eye view; we might seem like tiny ants scurrying about.
It's amusing to witness ourselves getting caught up in trivial disputes, such as a colleague's irritating behavior during meetings or a driver who cuts us off in traffic. Like a dog fixated on a stick, we often let minor incidents lead us down a path of worry and anxiety about the future, while obsessively reflecting on the past.
From a broader cosmic perspective, how trivial are the issues we expend so much emotional energy on? Marcus Aurelius captures this sentiment perfectly when he reflects on our fleeting existence:
“The earth will cover us all, and then be transformed in turn, and that too will change, ad infinitum. And that as well, ad infinitum. Think about them: the waves of change and alteration, endlessly breaking. And see our brief mortality for what it is.” — Marcus Aurelius
Reflecting on my past, I recall a time when I was infuriated by a coworker. At that moment, it felt significant, but in hindsight, it was inconsequential. Engaging in the Stoic practice known as the "view from above" provides a broader perspective, allowing us to recognize that our worries often lack real importance. Amid the turmoil of anxious thoughts, this practice can be remarkably soothing.
Section 1.1: Embracing Acceptance
The Stoic principle of “amor fati” encourages us to accept and even embrace what happens, focusing on what we can control instead of fixating on our desires.
“Don’t demand that things happen as you wish, but wish that they happen as they do happen, and you will go on well.” — Epictetus
In my life, I've faced my worst fears — losing jobs, relationships, and opportunities. Yet, in reflection, those challenging experiences left valuable lessons in their wake. For example, leaving a comfortable IT job to work as an Assistant Director in low-budget productions tested my patience. Although I faced frustrations such as not being paid on time and taking orders from individuals lacking formal education, these experiences taught me humility, hard work, and gratitude. Each challenge presents an opportunity to practice resilience, regardless of the situation. Resisting what happens only leads to unnecessary suffering.
Subsection 1.1.1: The Nature of Happiness
Happiness is often shaped by perspective and is influenced by circumstances. Research shows that lottery winners are only marginally happier a year later, while many individuals who have experienced paralysis report finding joy in life.
In my mother's final days, she exhibited a profound appreciation for life. She relished spending time with my father and me, prepared elaborate meals, and shared stories and wisdom she had never previously disclosed. After her passing, I wondered if she was aware of her impending end. It’s clear that even in the face of adversity, joy and purpose can be discovered. Recognizing this insight makes it evident that worrying about potential future hardships is futile.
“The secret to happiness might be having low standards of what makes you laugh and gives you joy.”
Chapter 2: Contemplating Mortality
“All things move in accord with their appointed times; they are destined to be born, to grow, and to be destroyed. The stars which you see moving above us, and this seemingly immovable earth to which we cling and on which we are set, will be consumed and will cease to exist.” — Seneca
From an outer space perspective, our lives are remarkably brief. We engage in conflicts and chase wealth and fame, yet in a century, most of us will be forgotten. Eventually, the Earth and the stars will vanish. Reflecting on our mortality can cultivate a profound sense of peace, allowing us to detach from trivial concerns. This healthy detachment doesn’t imply indifference; rather, it signifies the ability to maintain mental stability regardless of external circumstances.
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Last Thoughts: Shifting Perspectives
I used to be an incessant overthinker. This mindset contradicted the message I wish to convey. I would magnify my worries, making them appear far larger than they truly were. However, by adopting a broader perspective, even significant issues can seem less daunting.
By zooming out, we can discern what truly matters, enabling us to cultivate resilience and tranquility amid life's fluctuations.
“Happiness is not a destination — let’s not make it a pursuit. We get to choose it every day, hour, and moment.”
Happiness is not a relative term; it cannot be quantified, which means there are no limits to our capacity for joy. We must let go of the human tendency to strive for what we already possess abundantly. Seek joy in the little things and share it with others who may struggle to find it.
Want to try an experiment? Give $100 to two different people. Instruct one to spend it all on themselves within half an hour, while the other is to spend it on someone else. Observe who feels more fulfilled afterward. Typically, the one who shares will experience lasting fulfillment, while the one who indulges in personal spending may only feel transient happiness.
Choose your happiness wisely!
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