Understanding Coaching

What exactly is coaching? This question leads us on a journey of discovery. Coaching is a gradual process that fosters insights and learning, not just during sessions, but also in between them.

Informed by Simon Sinek's book "Start with Why," this exploration begins with the fundamentals of coaching. We must first grasp the WHY, then the HOW, and finally, the WHAT.

Know Your Purpose.

Understand the Method.

And then, What Comes Next?

Reflecting on my evolution from a fresh graduate in software engineering to traversing various roles in Engineering, Product, and Delivery, I never anticipated that coaching would become a vital skill in my toolkit. Yet, here I am, embarking on a journey of self-discovery through coaching.

Before we delve deeper into what coaching entails, let's clarify what it is not. Coaching is distinct from:

• Therapy
• Consulting
• Mentoring
• Training
• Counseling
• Managing

These misconceptions about coaching are common, even among those of us who have engaged with it. To unlock the true potential of coaching, we must first understand its real meaning.

Are You Ready to Learn?

According to Wikipedia, coaching finds its application across various fields including sports, performing arts, business, education, healthcare, and personal relationships. Coaches employ a diverse range of communication skills—such as listening, questioning, and clarifying—to help clients shift their perspectives and discover new paths to reach their goals. These skills are applicable across all types of coaching.

Coaching is not just a method; it is a developmental journey where you are the focal point. The coach's role is to assist you in achieving your objectives, surmounting obstacles, or expanding your comfort zone. This process unfolds gradually and requires patience to recognize changes in behavior and mindset. Some clients may notice benefits after just one session, while others may require three to five sessions, depending on their individual pace and goals.

In an age that values personalization, a generic approach is insufficient.

This is why an initial chemistry session with a coach can be transformative, as it helps clarify your coaching needs and tailor the coaching dialogue to suit you best.

Coaching Has Limited Value When:

• You lack the knowledge to perform a task.
• A deadline is looming.
• You are closed off to growth.
• You do not take accountability for your actions.
• You hesitate to express your thoughts.
• You are not committed to your goals.

Never ask an athlete to execute something beyond their capability; otherwise, they will question not only their own abilities but also your effectiveness as a coach.

Each client is an expert in their own domain. Instead of offering advice, why not create a safe, non-judgmental environment that encourages them to explore the uncomfortable? This is where coaching becomes pivotal for those seeking to alter their leadership style.

Coaching Enhances Performance When:

• The client is responsible for their progress.
• The client makes their own choices.
• Sufficient time is allocated for reflection.
• The client is dedicated to learning and unlearning.

You earn your accolades during practice; competitions are merely where you collect them.

From my personal experience, the benefits I’ve gained from coaching include:

• Challenging my limiting beliefs.
• Uncovering my inner potential.
• Enhancing my self-awareness.
• Encouraging growth.
• Providing a safe space for reflection.

What is Coaching? A blog by Ruchira Parchur visual by Information Artist

"A good coach can change a game. A great coach can change a life." — John Wooden

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