Finding Cosmic Connection in the Journey of Aging
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Chapter 1: Embracing the Journey of Aging
The process of aging is often shrouded in negativity, but there exists a hopeful perspective that views this phase as an opportunity for spiritual growth. Recently, I came across the insightful work of Swedish sociologist Dr. Lars Tornstam, which has resonated with my own reflections as I navigate my 70s.
I have found that once I embraced my age, life improved significantly. For too long, I resisted the reality of growing older. It was only through mindfulness practices, particularly meditation, that I learned to accept my age and embrace the present moment. This acceptance is crucial for achieving a fulfilling and joyful later life.
Dr. Tornstam’s research supports my personal experiences. He discovered that around 20% of individuals over 65 experience a profound sense of connection to the universe, akin to what many spiritual practitioners feel. This phenomenon, termed gerotranscendence, suggests that aging can lead to a state of transcendence, enabling individuals to rise above typical physical limitations.
What Is Gerotranscendence?
In medical terminology, "gero" refers to old age, while "transcendence" means to exceed normal boundaries. Dr. Tornstam, through extensive research and dialogue with older adults, has proposed that the aging process can lead to a state of maturity characterized by gerotranscendence. He describes it as:
"Gerotranscendence is the final stage in a natural process moving toward maturation and wisdom. The gerotranscendent individual experiences a new feeling of cosmic communion with the spirit of the universe, a redefinition of time, space, life, and death, and a redefinition of self."
— Lars Tornstam, Gerotranscendence: A Developmental Theory of Positive Aging (2005)
Over the past three years, I have delved into this realm through daily meditation and deep exploration of spirituality. At 79, I feel a heightened sense of happiness and creativity, a stark contrast to the common narratives surrounding aging, which often emphasize staying active and fit to stave off decline.
Consider figures like Former President George H.W. Bush, who famously participated in skydiving well into his later years, or Doris "Granny D" Rollins, who, at 88, walked across the U.S. to advocate for campaign finance reform. They exemplified that older adults can lead dynamic lives. However, Dr. Tornstam advocates for a different adventure—one that involves embracing aging to discover the wisdom gained through life experiences.
Not everyone will achieve gerotranscendence, but those who accept the aging process, especially after enduring hardships, may transcend the physical constraints of growing older. In a 2010 interview with The New York Times, Tornstam remarked, "We develop and change; we mature... It’s a process that continues throughout our lives and does not cease."
"Knowing Marty has taught me one important truth — never look at an older person and dismiss them because they're infirm or slow. That individual may have gone through hells you can't imagine and be a vessel of wisdom beyond anything you can comprehend."
— Steven Pressman, from The Knowledge
Five Key Characteristics of Gerotranscendence
As we age, our perspective shifts from a materialistic viewpoint to a more cosmic understanding of existence. Here are five characteristics of the Gerotranscendence Theory that resonate with my experiences as a meditator and Zen practitioner:
A Desire for Solitude
With age comes an increased need for self-reflection and inner peace. Over the past two decades, my yearning for solitude and stillness has grown. While I can no longer match the physical agility of younger individuals, I possess the wisdom that comes from 79 years of life experience and years of meditation.
A Change in Our Sense of Time
Aging alters our perception of time. Rather than viewing time linearly, we may begin to experience the present moment as timeless. This shift can lead to a diminished need for structured time, as our focus turns inward.
A Connection to Earlier Generations
Gerotranscendence fosters a deeper sense of connection to our ancestry and the continuum of life. My exploration of my family's heritage has instilled in me a sense of pride and belonging that transcends individual identity.
Decreased Fear of Death
Those who experience gerotranscendence often find that their fear of death diminishes as they age. The understanding that consciousness persists beyond physical existence can provide comfort and hope.
The Mystery of Life
Accepting life's mysteries becomes more prevalent. Through my spiritual journey, particularly in Zen Buddhism, I have embraced the unknown and the inherent mystery of existence.
To quote Dr. Tornstam once more:
"The gerotranscendent individual experiences a new feeling of cosmic communion with the spirit of the universe, a redefinition of time, space, life, and death, and a redefinition of self."
This perspective offers a new lens through which to view aging—not as a decline, but as a profound adventure into the depths of existence.
Chapter 2: Understanding the Adventure of Aging
The first video titled "Terrence Howard is Legitimately Insane" explores the eccentric perspectives of the actor, shedding light on the nature of consciousness and reality in a humorous yet thought-provoking manner.
The second video, "Terrence Howard: 'This is The Best Kept SECRET in The ENTIRE WORLD!'" delves into Howard's intriguing views on life, secrets of existence, and the transcendental experiences that can arise from them.
In conclusion, the journey of aging is one filled with potential for deep understanding, connection, and peace—a journey we can all embrace as we navigate the later years of our lives.